Emeka Esogbue

  Fatness or Slimness of Women: Africa Lost her Beauty Preference to the Whites - Emeka Esogbue Do you know that fat was African beauty of women until western orientation changed it? In traditional African society, men loved their women fat. For the true Africans in Africa, fat was the beauty of a woman. Her husband loved her fat, with large 'back' visibly thrown back to the welcomed delight of her admirers and the breasts have to be large and pointing to the sky, succulent in appearance even while wrapped inside the dress and easily noticed by prying eyes. Such was the African beauty of a woman in the eyes of the African man and in Africa. In cultural societies of the Efik, Ibibio and Calabari especially, husbands had to pay for their (future) wives to undergo what was called fattening room. This was a place young women that have attained puberty where taken to be prepared for womanhood. In this part of the world, it was a privilege to be fat and a sign of sexual purity to be ...

IGBUZO SINGLES: POLL FAVOURS IMPROVEMENT IN IBUSA INTER- MARRIAGE -        -   Emeka Esogbue Over the years of my existence in this world, I have lived with the wrong perception that discourages us, the Ibusa people from marrying from Ibusa. Some say that Ibusa girls are only good for friendship but not marriage but ISM has totally changed my perception and now I wish, desire and prayer to marry from ‘obodo oma’, Ibusa. -        Anonymous An opinion poll carried out by Pen Master within the period of July 19 to July 26, 2020 has shown that in recent times, Igbuzo marriage has not only been favoured by the community’s youngers but may expectedly go on the increase in the years to ahead. The poll which was conducted on the platform of Igbuzo Singles Meet, popularly called “ISM”, a singles Association with Igbuzo membership initiated to promote the Igbuzo marriage and also foster love, unity and understanding among the sin...

By Emeka Esogbue Most African women, married to African men live with horrible taboos that are hard to surmount. Sadly, many of the enslaving taboos are only discovered in the middle of married life or sometimes when marriage has ended but they leave a wide gap of inequality between husbands and wives. In most parts of Africa, the groom’s mother wields an ungainly but tough influence which determines whether her son should consider marrying a particular woman of his choice or not. As a result of this, the lucky woman proposed to by a man has the first task of praying to be accepted by a mother-in-law to be. If the marriage goes through, then begins an entirely new life of societal laws that the woman will learn to live with all the days of her married life. To start with, the journey to a successful marriage ceremony can be very knotty, tenaciously made so by the elders in the village who will show interest in monetary gains. There are elders whose lives depend on finance and ...